I had read an article in my class last year that spoke of a couple having a child and knew the sex of the child but chose not to share it with the rest of the world. The child was simply called Baby X and wore all colors so that no one would be able to tell the sex of the child.
As an infant, Baby X had all colors of clothing and all kinds of toys. Each toy that was usually gender specific was owned by the child. For example, a toy like a train set, which is usually a boy’s toy, the child played with it. Everytime a person would ask, the parents would not tell the sex; instead, an explanation was given that the child shoud finds its own identity. The child itself did not even know what sex they were.
I find pros and cons with this practice. I fell like a child should be able to explore different things to establish their identity. With knowing their gender, this may limit their ideas on what is to be expected of them. For example, if a child learns that it is a female, she may show resistance to play with tools and trucks because that is not the norm in society. On the other side, a boy may not want to age and become a stay at home husband because he will probably be taught the the male is the bread winner in a household. Without having constraints of a gender label, an individual may have the opportunity to explore options that are available to both men and women.
One of the cons to this practice would be gender confusion. If a child does not know what gender they are, they might become confused of their identity. In a society where gender labels are very apparent, this could confuse the person in knowing or wanting to establish where they belong. Also, a child may have to deal with ridcule and bullying from school mates or other pears if it becomes obvious, especially during puberty, what sex the individual is. If this is the case, would the parent think it is ethical to surpress their child’s sex through hormone therapy? That question could arise if the parent is adement of the sex not being known to the public.
This practice, if executed with care, could become beneficial in molding a child’s identity and gender roles as they continue to age. However, if it comes to a point where the child would like to know their gender, I feel it is improtant for the parents to inform them of their gender. I believe a child can know their own gender and make their own decision as to what gender role they would like to fulfill. A parent should explain that although they are of a certain sex, they do not have to be restricted to the norms of that gender.