Is It A Boy Or A Girl? And Does It Even Matter?

According to many reports the new trend in raising a child is to raise them without a gender. A “genderless” person, you say? What does that even mean? Is it an “it”? What do we refer “it” as? Those are just a few of the many questions that come to mind when one hears about the many people who now decide to raise their children without a gender. This new age approach may seem crazy to most, but is it really all that strange?


Most of this began in 2011 with the Toronto couple that decided to raise their child, named Storm Stocker, without a gender. The parents of the baby decided to keep the gender of their child secret. The only people that found out the gender were it’s siblings, and the midwives. Kathy and David Stocker made this decision, because they felt that it was best for their child. They sent out an email stating

“We decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a standup to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime.”

Video – 5 Views on Genderless Child on The View

Controversial topic for sure, but I was surprised to see that 89% of people did not agree with it, while only 11% did. I am sure that this is a very difficult decision to make, and I completely understand where Storm’s parents are coming from; however, I do not know if it is the best decision for the baby. I completely agree with Sherri Shepherd when she says that “He is a baby, that is when you come in as parents…” I believe that children are blank slates that come into the world, and it comes down to how they are raised. It is the parents’ responsibility to make their child’s life as easy as possible. This does not involve adding another thing that could confuse the child while growing up. Isn’t it bad enough that there are bullies out there that make fun of children for not having the most up to date clothes, but now this child will be put through hell by people because “it” is raised differently.

In the end all that matters is that Storm is a happy and healthy baby, but is it normal to make an experiment out of your child? Should Mr. and Mrs. Stocker raise their baby in a way that could later hurt “it”? So many questions are raised by this controversial decision, but only time will tell how it will all affect Storm.



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5 Responses to Is It A Boy Or A Girl? And Does It Even Matter?

  1. Bryan O'Loughlin says:

    It has been said gender is nothing but a response to the social pressures around us. This pressure has become such a normal and over looked side-effect of our biological sex that gender is now seen as being fact, even though it is a purely social construct. I wish our society allowed for more then two gender expressions, hell most people don’t firmly rest on either side of male and female gender expression. Women embrace and express thing that are manly and vice versa. But only to a limited degree are you allowed to test the waters of the other gender. And Just because we have two physically distinct sexes does not mean that is the same for gender anyways. Some research has suggestion up to 8 or more different genders are present in American cultural alone. Allowing a human to express and explore for themselves is real freedom, and it’s sad to see a system of child rearing that forces a fixed gender identity on the minds of young kids. Yes a child may face a harder life but it is because the system is flawed and judgmental and needs to be changed. We didn’t ask black people to change their skin color during the 50’s and 60’s we had to change the system as to allow those people to exist freely without judgement.

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  3. ryanbierschenk says:

    This kind of experiment seems dangerous. When the child is old enough to enter social settings, if the parents haven’t disclosed the information as to what gender Storm is, then Storm won’t know how to function in gender segregated environments like the bathroom. I certainly do not support treating a child in this manner. I think that I can see where the parents were coming from in the long run, but I think the harm outweighs any benefit.

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  5. miki says:

    I don’t see how not revealing the baby’s gender to the world would confuse it. Do you know what’s going on in their home? How do you know they’re not acknowledging its gender at home, but simply not disclosing it to the world at large? Even now the kid still has another three years before it will be in school; there’s a good chance they’ll reveal before then. I don’t really see what the big deal is if they’re just raising their child to not be forced to act a certain way or force interest in certain things just because of what society says.

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