Sometimes I ask myself, Why do I feel the need to hold the door open for a woman and let her pass through before I do but I will enter a place and make sure the man behind me catches the door after I enter? Do women think it is rude if a man does not hold the door open for her? If the man does not pay for dinner on a first or second date, does she think less of him? If the answer is yes, then why? Why is there a stigma placed on men if they do not show these attributes but there is still a calling for complete equality?
The way I understand it is that women want equality in all aspects except the courtesies of the “old days.” I have no doubt that women are able to open doors for themselves, pay for dinner, or do the same jobs as men. But….a lot of women want to hold on to that little piece of tradition in history that was convenient. When asking women what type of qualities they look for in a man, the most common answers I have heard include “provider…” and “protecting…” I am not trying to put women on blast by any means, I am just pointing out a flaw in some womens expectation of complete equality if they still expect men to take care of them.
Regardless of the outcome on equality for women, I believe there will always be men who show a broad array courtesies and actions that we call Chivalry. I also believe that no matter what the outcome, that there will always be women who expect and accept those chivalrous actions. I know that no matter what happens from here on out, I will continue my actions the way i was raised to (which was by my mother). I would like some more input on the female perspective of this, so I will be looking forward to your comments.