Who Cheats More, Men or Women?

Ever sense the human race has practiced monogamy, there has been infidelity. In my opinion, men and women were never designed, nor meant to be a monogamous species. It is in our very nature to be sexually attracted to the opposite sex, regardless of whether or not they are our significant other, girlfriend, or wife. So the question is which gender is more likely to cheat? One would think it would be men because of the fact that men are known to have a much higher sex drive. According to the Wall Street Journal, “Research shows women may be cheating now almost as much as men, Researchers believe that the incidence of unfaithfulness among wives may be approaching that of husbands.”(1)

If I were to note my own observations on this subject I would not suspect women to be as unfaithful as men. According to MailOnline.com, “While men have always had a worse reputation for being unfaithful, recent studies show that women are catching up fast, but women are a lot more likely to lie about it and a lot less likely to get caught. Simply put, it seems that women are better at having affairs than men… According to Dr. David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, ‘women are having more affairs than ever. Recent studies say the figure is around 20 percent for men and a bit over 15 percent for women, but they behave very differently from men when they cheat. The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret,’ he says. ‘If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 percent of children haven’t been fathered by the man who thinks he’s the biological parent.”(2)

Essentially, this information suggests that women have the same feelings towards infidelity as men. Of course, most couples are true to one another, but there are always exceptions. So why is the assumption that men are much more likely to cheat? The research apparently points towards a tie. Another great explanation for this shift in female infidelity would be a change in culture. For instance, “According to a Match.com study conducted earlier this year by the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, women are becoming less traditional about relationships. Men, interestingly, may be going the other direction…Social networks are another factor, if only by expanding the pool of possible partners. Emotional friendships that turn physical are the traditional point of entry for female affairs. It is now easy for those friendships to take root online.”(1) This move away from the “traditional relationship,” could be a great factor in why women have begun to connect with several other intimate partners.

To conclude, the minority of women and men engage in infidelity. Although, the stereo type is that men are much more likely to cheat on their partners, women have become known for their sexual discretion’s lately as well. Our culture today is changing and along with it, our relationships. Could social media and online networking sites be the reason for the increase in female infidelity? If men and women are equal in society then there shouldn’t be any issue if women are beginning to engage in an equal amount of infidelity.


(2) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1211104/Think-men-unfaithful-sex-A-study-shows-WOMEN-biggest-cheats–theyre-just-better-lying-it.html

(3) http://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2011/04/08/low-fidelity-sexology/


About Kyle Kirby

Hi, my name is Kyle and I am 21 years old. I'm a senior, I am a criminal justice major. I will be graduating this summer and soon after I will hopefully be commissioning in the military as an officer.
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7 Responses to Who Cheats More, Men or Women?

  1. auddieblue says:

    On this subject, I read an article that talked about why people are attracted to those who are already in relationships: women, for example, are attracted to men who show caring, dependable, and faithful qualities. Men who are in relationships show these qualities and have already been “approved” by women as relationship material. The same would be for men being attracted to women in relationships – they’ve been “approved” by other men as dating-material, so the men would be more attracted to them.
    Also, it’d be interesting to see if men and women are more susceptible to cheating with people who are their “type” or with people who are the opposite of their “type”.

    • Kyle Kirby says:

      I have noticed this a lot while growing up. Men and women have their relationships tested all the time by other single men and women. The qualitative qualities that the single people are attracted to may very well be what they go after.

  2. I feel like the women who get off on cheating are easy to pick out. They are usually the ones who enjoy and find pride in the fact that they naturally call the “ultimate shots” in any type of relationship. They hold their heads high knowing that they can pick and choose which drooling dogs… I mean men they want to court. That being said, I don’t think that’s wrong at all and if I were a woman I would probably do the same (although that is coming from a males perspective). It’s just something that I personally see more and more of, which I think in turn shows in the evidence you included.

  3. Kyle Kirby says:

    I agree, some women are enticed by the “wrong factor” in cheating on their significant others, but this is a two way street men feel the same way. It always feels better to do bad things, because its fun. The only difference is people view men as the main cheater when in reality men just are not great at keeping it a secrete, and women are.

  4. I noticed that the study you cited only considered cheating during a marriage, but of course people can be in long term relationships and cheat too. I wonder how the data would change, if at all, if it were broadened to include cheating on boyfriends/girlfriends, or whether there are differences between heterosexual and homosexual relationships in terms of cheating.

  5. Kyle Kirby says:

    I would expect that the data would change, but only because of the commitment people undergo when they get married. I expect that the rates of cheating would greatly increase for both males and females, but I still believe that the data would suggest that females are cheating almost just as much as men, if not equally, because of cultural changes and the lessening value of relationships.

  6. TheKnownTruth says:

    Women are the Worst when it comes to Cheating, and what else can they do right anyway?

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