Women have always been seen as the more “docile” sex. But as times are changing so are we. It was once thought that women could not defend themselves from their attacker. Today we are presented with a very different image.
In this video right as a large man tries to pull this young girl back into the elevator, we see her take charge and gain the upper hand with her attacker. She even manages to give him quite a “beating” before he desperately crawls out of the elevator. Even then we see her chase after him. In this video I commend the young girl. She has the right to protect herself and she did not only that, but the experience will probably leave the attacker apprehensive about attacking someone in the future.
This video however leaves me feeling unconfident about who is the instigator. While it appears the man is tailing her, he has yet to actually lay hand on the woman or her child. Does that give her the right to hit him? I don’t believe so. A woman should only instigate physical violence if she has actually been threatened. I see how she could have felt threatened since he was closely following her, but he did not deserve to be hit. However, he had no good reason to hit her either, as she was trying to get away from him and he tracked her down again, and knocked over her child in the process.
This last video is particularly offensive as this woman is clearly attacking this man. While the couple begins their “alone time” with some passionate kissing, things quickly turn serious as he denies her advances for sex. This girl got particularly violent and I doubt she suffered any legal repercussions because of this. There is also little support for men who are attacked. Typical other males responses would range from disbelief to demeaning. Men are supposed to take up any offer of sex, and are outside the social norm to reject someone they already know on a physical level.
There were also several videos online of women beating their boyfriends who have cheated on them. Most of the comments on the video were supportive of the women participating in physical violence. That he “got what was coming to him.” I am sure that they would have had very different reactions if a man were beating a woman for being unfaithful. Somehow, societies view that physical violence against women is worse than not only women’s violence towards men, but worse than men hitting weaker men or adults hitting children. Once a woman has been hit, society does not question whether she provoked the situation, or if she instigated the physical violence. If she hits him, shes crazy or he did something wrong. If he hits her he’s abusive. Either way society today should have no excuse for physical violence.
I have honestly never been as disgusted as when I was reading comments about the Steubenville rape case. How can after centuries people still claim that people who got raped were “asking” for it? That she could come up with these “false” accusations to play off a night of drinking? As much as someone could create a false story of being raped, they would have had a hard time making up all the technological evidence to support it. Instead of teaching boys not to rape, we teach women how to not get raped. We need to create a society where we teach people that any sort of physical or sexual violence against each other is wrong. Not that its ok if she hits him, or she was asking for it.